Falling Down 05/23/2009
 
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Some days I miss my BabyCenter gig in the sense that I had to write only on parenting topics. It was entertaining to get everyone's perspective.

Maybe I'll start a new tab where I post just once/week on mommy issues. Because this website isn't enough of a hodgepodge with giveaways, writing classes, Tourettes forums and me complaining about subdermal hematomas and Yuban.

My hesitation with the parenting tab is that I am not sure if I want people who hate me coming over to my comfort zone and telling me how much I suck. At least at BabyCenter I got paid to be blasted.

If I had that parenting section, though, I'd talk about how today has been fabulous. I know how much I have compared the rest of the world, and I don't take it for granted. From a birthday party at a farm with Pip while Papa stayed home with Stink, to a lovely lunch with my family at Taco Bell, to a dip in the neighbors' pool followed by a warm bath, life couldn't be sweeter.

But then the yelling started. (Kids, not Rex. Though we are long overdue. This honeymoon stage we're in is just too goopy to be true.)

And the fighting.

And the "but you saiiiiiiiddddd's" and the "she started it" and my perspective goes from "Wow I"m the luckiest wife and mom on the planet and maybe... just maybe... I might have created a new show that could bring in some decent cash (more on that later)" to "I am sooooooooooo tired of this ca-ca!"

It's that flip of the bitch switch - the black and white thinking - that tells me to take a time out and gain perspective.

Which means the kids get to clean their room while I blog.

And now, life is starting to feel perfect again.

Happy weekend everyone! Love you all! (Except the haters. But so far you haven't commented yet here. So thanks for that.)







 


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phd in yogurtry link
05/23/2009 18:44

You've nailed it - the no in between. From "I love you more than my life" to "I brought you into this world, i can take you out!" To the evening when all is right with the world again. Have a great weekend!

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flutter link
05/23/2009 20:30

love you too, girl. Truly

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ramblin' red link
05/23/2009 21:04

Andrea, you've always hit me as such a kindred spirit when it comes to those core parenting issues, like the bitch-switch. I know exactly what you mean, and it doesn't mean that we love our kids any less or our lives with them any less, it just means that we are real and human and genuine as opposed to saccharine, plastic and Stepford wives.

You're a great mama, keep it up!

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Daria link
05/24/2009 06:25

It's part of their job as a kid, besides learning and growing, to keep us silly parents in line. They are very good at it.

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Travis Erwin link
05/24/2009 13:26

Who could hate you, or your fine posts?

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Meowmie link
05/25/2009 01:05

Love the Dora outfit and accessories (why yes, I have a Dora fan at home).

Glad the haters aren't coming over here. Honestly, I do love the gals writing over at BabyCenter (much, much love for Betsy and Jamie Lee and more), but teh crazies who come over to pitch their judgmental shtick in the comments fields can be a bit much at times. And I'm not the blogger! I am astonished at how often those blogging gals bite their lips (well, I imagine they do) and don't tell the more irrational commenters to take a hike to the hills.

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gretchen link
05/25/2009 16:18

You had me at: Lunch at Taco Bell.

Ahem...And I heart Pip's wardrobe malfunction.

I, sorry to say, was never that present at Baby Center, simply b/c my kids are older, and I've already gnashed teeth upto the preteen years.

But I lurve your writing, Andrea. I do. And I so hope that show is a go for you.

And...lemme tell you, sistah, given that 1/2 our family is staying home dealing with the consequences of someone's behavior, while the other 1/2 enjoys a movie (Night at the Museum, no less), I do feel a bit of the bitch switch every now and then. Oh, I feel ya.

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Stacey
05/25/2009 17:42

I SOOOO miss your parent posts at BC, and I almosty never go there anymore now that you've moved on. I am anxiously awaiting your parent tab on this fabulous blog. And I'll take on any haters that come your way!!

Hope things go so well with your TV show. The Colonel and his girls can't wait to see it!

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Stacey
05/25/2009 18:25

BTW, your very cute kiddos look geeky and strange enough with their matching Dora bags, falling straps and GOGGLES ON WITH NO POOL IN SIGHT, that for a minute I thought they were homeschoolers headed out for a family field trip LOL! Is that a hard hat your son is wearing??? What cuties they are. They are going to love these photos when they' re older.

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Just Jiff link
05/26/2009 09:16

Yay!! for the show and for the goopy honeymoon stage. :)

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His Girl Amber link
05/27/2009 05:39

oh, how I love thee! I love that you're so honest about parenting, that you truly love your people, and that you're able to laugh- and make us laugh too.

Parenting is a bunch of extremes. I love when my kids are getting along, I want to buy them things and take them places and all of that. When they argue I want to take them places all right... It amazes me how quickly we swing on the pendulum. I think maybe it's designed that way, so we can appreciate, we can learn, and, when the time is right, we can let go...

which sometimes is coming way too fast and sometimes couldn't get here fast enough!

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