Hm, your anti-Momfo intrigues me...
:-)
I am a working mom and have been for all of Sprite's life. One woman recently enrolled her daughter in daycare and asked me how I felt being a part time mother. I almost lashed into her. What the hell? How does working make me a part time mom? I still worry just as much as a SAHM, even more since I can't be there. Oy.

Funny you should bring this up. This year, I decided to go back into the workforce. Yep, I'd recertify and work with school age kids as a speech therapist, and have school time hours. And then...it seems as if God has his hand firmly planted on my forehead, pushing my back, as if to say, "Down, Girl! Not so fast." I have a kid at home now, most of the time. Yes, he's old enough to be on his own for a bit (thank goodness for lunch dates), but I cannot in good conscience leave him for more than that at this point. His school only goes 2x/week for around 2.5 hours each. By the time I commute and throw in a load of laundry, it's time to pick him up. I tell myself that this is a season. That so many people would like the opportunity to stay home if they could. That nothing i could do is more important than being present with him. But...

I won't pretend that it's not hard. For both of us.

I won't say I don't miss those cute outfits and "someplace to be" with clearly defined expectations, praise, and criticism.

I won't say that sometimes it's not hard b/c I feel like I'm buying my husband presents for his b'day and Christmas with his own money.

But I will say...for now...this second...I'm at peace with the whole thing. I wanted children. I have them. And now it's time to raise them the best I can according to their needs and my abilities.

Glad you're doing so well, Andrea. Balancing is so hard, and yet, look at all you've achieved so far! Blessings, friend.

Wow - that whole SAHM vs. working mom is something I've struggled with since my oldest was born. The judgemental remarks from both sides of the fence, the working moms who feel that SAHMoms are just lazy, the SAHMoms who think working moms are selfish - there's just no easy answer. It's like a religious war - both sides have valid points but there's just no middle ground sometimes :) I'd love to stay home - so long as I had enough money to shop as much as I wanted, had a house I loved and someone to clean it, and could take a break from the kids whenever I needed to. Since that's not an option, I work - to pay the bills, take vacations and get my kids the things they want. And I need the stimulation. My career is a part of me, just like being a mother is a part of me. The kids come first and they win everytime hands down - but I need to work for me. If that's selfish, then so be it :)

Yeah, I work FT outside the home and started back to school FT. My husband does both of those too. It's a balancing act and it's hard being away from the kiddos when I know hubby is home with them. That being said, I think it's good for the kids to see mommy & daddy working together and not mommy doing everything.

I can't wait for your anti-parenting blog. I don't like how PC people are. Just say it like it is, ya know?

Meowmie - Sounds like a great situaion you have there! I'm not for the fighting either. I am just happy to hear both sides of the fence so that moms can make good choices for themselves when their time comes.

It's always about the balance with us moms. Whether at home, working or both. And we beat ourselves up whichever way we go. It sounds like you are really creating a good balance, and that Rex is right there with you. That in itself is HUGE. Congrats on the job!